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Marriage Today is Slavery For Men

April 18, 2011

According to John Stewart Mill in the “Subjugation of Women” he compares the institution of marriage to slavery. He argued that women/wives were like slaves because the laws at that time made them subject to their husbands. The laws at that time forced women to obey and basically be a “lap dog” to their husbands. Mill argued that women were worse off than slaves because women weren’t free to do pretty much anything even when they went to sleep at night.

Many years have passed since Mill made this inference and many things have changed around marriage laws. Most of these changes have not been on the positive side. During Mill’s time when he made the inference of women being slaves when it came to marriage, the ball was in the man’s court, but as times have changed the ball is in the middle, which is equality and that is where it should be. But to be perfectly honest, the ball has swung over to the woman’s side and things have reversed and today the institution of marriage is slavery for men.

Today marriage is not so much important for the male species. Divorce rates are skyrocketing now-and-days. And because “No Fault Divorce” is very common among many states, women can file for divorce for whatever reason they want. These divorce rates infer that today it is easier and more accepting for people to get divorced than in Mill’s time. Divorce laws favor women and that is why the divorce rates are so high. For men, divorce does not work in their favor because most of the time divorce ends in losing their homes and half of their assets or more, that is if you did not sign a prenuptial agreement. If there are children involved majority of the time the mother gets custody of the children, unless there are other circumstances involved. Women getting custody of the children leave men in sticky situations, leaving them with only limited opportunities to spend time with their children. Also not only are visitation limits very slim, men also end up having to pay child support as well, which sometimes can be a huge burden. And you cannot get out of paying child support. Child support and alimony must be paid even if the father is injured or loses his job, and if they do not follow through their can be extreme consequences. Also men can be subjected to pay child support for children who aren’t theirs as well.

Therefore, a male living in the United States is subjected to a form of slavery when making the decision to get married. His wife has a large amount of legal power to making their soon to be ex-husband into a walking slave, getting money out of him, assets, children, etc. This is why many men choose not to get married because a marriage comes with a lot of baggage and commitments. Many women also take advantage of marriage just primarily to simply get money out of the man, that in which we call “gold-digging”. It’s funny how years ago, the institution of marriage was reversed and women were slaves in their marriage and now today it is men in that role. This situation is not fair at all, but that is what society has painted.

For men, marriage is financial slavery. “In examining reasons for the current decline of marriage, one question usually receives short shrift. Why are men reluctant to marry?The Rutgers report — admittedly based on a small sample — found ten prevalent reasons. The first three:

— They can get sex without marriage;

— They can enjoy “a wife” through cohabitation; and,

— They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

As a critic of anti-male bias in the family courts, the reasons I hear most frequently from non-marrying men are fear of financial devastation in divorce and of losing meaningful contact with children afterward. In a similar vein, the Rutgers report finds: “Many men also fear the financial consequences of divorce. They say that their financial assets are better protected if they cohabit rather than marry. They fear that an ex-wife will ‘take you for all you’ve got’ and that ‘men have more to lose financially than women’ from a divorce (”


  1. Steve permalink
    April 29, 2011 7:20 PM

    Marriage is complete waste of time for a man.

    Statistics show 50% or more of the marriages will end in divorce. You don’t need to marry someone, to love them and be with them. Marriage is nothing more than a completely outdated legally binding contract. Those of you that are the high earner or the one that possessed most of the premarital assets, will find out the very hard way how unfair Family courts are. You will become nothing more than a human ATM to your ex-spouse especially if you were married more than 5 years. If you made the HUGE mistake of having children, you will be paying for at least 16 years, possibly 23yrs. In equitable distribution states (yeah equitable alright, haha) you will lose 50-80% of all that you accumulated during the marriage, as well as 50-80% of ALL your premarital assets in some states. If your ex is awarded alimony you could be paying FOR THE REST OF THE LIFE ! 97% of the alimony payers are men. To me, in 2011, except for the tax break you may get being married, for any high earner of those of high net worth, THERE IS NO REASON TO GET MARRIED, period.
    The divorce industry is a multi-billion $$$ machine, that will ruined all high earners, and those that inherited significant family assets. Seriously, if you want to be truly loved get a pet. If you have a hankering for children, there are many needy children in the world you can adopt. Or volunteer for big brother or big sister. The end of marriage is that natural end point for the grossly unfair rules of family courts. Hopefully all divorce lawyers and courts will go out of business, but sometimes you can’t stop people from making big huge mistakes…..that is life.

  2. Baldheaded Dude permalink
    July 31, 2011 8:46 PM

    I divorced (no-fault divorce) two years ago and owe child support and medical support for the next 10 years. My ex made more than me so didn’t pursue any further financial assets in divorce decree. However, I didn’t request in the decree that she couldn’t move more than 100 miles away without my consent. I regret that because a move by her is very likely in the near future. also, its unfair that the custodial parent “woman” gets all the tax benefits because she has the child in her possession. everything for the non-custodial parent is post-taxed. I am no longer interested in dating and feel very satisfied with masturbating (with all the options available). real life women just aren’t worth the financial and emotional cost for me these days. i would rather pursue my career and hobbies, which have been much more pleasant and rewarding.

  3. March 1, 2012 10:08 PM

    Interesting view

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