Marriage Today is Slavery For Men
According to John Stewart Mill in the “Subjugation of Women” he compares the institution of marriage to slavery. He argued that women/wives were like slaves because the laws at that time made them subject to their husbands. The laws at that time forced women to obey and basically be a “lap dog” to their husbands. Mill argued that women were worse off than slaves because women weren’t free to do pretty much anything even when they went to sleep at night.
Many years have passed since Mill made this inference and many things have changed around marriage laws. Most of these changes have not been on the positive side. During Mill’s time when he made the inference of women being slaves when it came to marriage, the ball was in the man’s court, but as times have changed the ball is in the middle, which is equality and that is where it should be. But to be perfectly honest, the ball has swung over to the woman’s side and things have reversed and today the institution of marriage is slavery for men.
Today marriage is not so much important for the male species. Divorce rates are skyrocketing now-and-days. And because “No Fault Divorce” is very common among many states, women can file for divorce for whatever reason they want. These divorce rates infer that today it is easier and more accepting for people to get divorced than in Mill’s time. Divorce laws favor women and that is why the divorce rates are so high. For men, divorce does not work in their favor because most of the time divorce ends in losing their homes and half of their assets or more, that is if you did not sign a prenuptial agreement. If there are children involved majority of the time the mother gets custody of the children, unless there are other circumstances involved. Women getting custody of the children leave men in sticky situations, leaving them with only limited opportunities to spend time with their children. Also not only are visitation limits very slim, men also end up having to pay child support as well, which sometimes can be a huge burden. And you cannot get out of paying child support. Child support and alimony must be paid even if the father is injured or loses his job, and if they do not follow through their can be extreme consequences. Also men can be subjected to pay child support for children who aren’t theirs as well.
Therefore, a male living in the United States is subjected to a form of slavery when making the decision to get married. His wife has a large amount of legal power to making their soon to be ex-husband into a walking slave, getting money out of him, assets, children, etc. This is why many men choose not to get married because a marriage comes with a lot of baggage and commitments. Many women also take advantage of marriage just primarily to simply get money out of the man, that in which we call “gold-digging”. It’s funny how years ago, the institution of marriage was reversed and women were slaves in their marriage and now today it is men in that role. This situation is not fair at all, but that is what society has painted.
For men, marriage is financial slavery. “In examining reasons for the current decline of marriage, one question usually receives short shrift. Why are men reluctant to marry?The Rutgers report — admittedly based on a small sample — found ten prevalent reasons. The first three:
— They can get sex without marriage;
— They can enjoy “a wife” through cohabitation; and,
— They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
As a critic of anti-male bias in the family courts, the reasons I hear most frequently from non-marrying men are fear of financial devastation in divorce and of losing meaningful contact with children afterward. In a similar vein, the Rutgers report finds: “Many men also fear the financial consequences of divorce. They say that their financial assets are better protected if they cohabit rather than marry. They fear that an ex-wife will ‘take you for all you’ve got’ and that ‘men have more to lose financially than women’ from a divorce (foxnews.com).”